This all may have been done somewhere before, but I have yet to come across it and many of the readers (including, me the author) may find this rather unnecessary, however it is an exercise in thinking. Also, it just so happens that I have been accused of always being so negative and this is my proof/reasoning on how there is no other way to be in this instance. The only way to determine if someone is a “good” or “bad” mate is to decide first what one is looking for, then see if the person in question fits that criteria, if not, they are a “bad” choice. When eventually a “good” choice is found they fit! However, everyone previous to that “good” choice has been “bad”…

 

Now imagine how many people that the regular person passes in a day, each one sized up must there for be a “bad” choice, hundreds, thousands, all determined to be “bad” choices, no wonder people feel that I am negative….

Here is my logic.

Hypothesis:

It is impossible to determine who would make a good mate from a distance, each person must be examined and determined, either that they would make a good mate would not make a good mate. Meaning that the entire human race is a possible mate previous to examination, IE you can never say that someone would make a “good boyfriend/girlfriend” only “that one would make a bad one.”

Premise:

Here are the principles that must be followed to determine a “good” mate:

1) If a male or a female are attracted to another person (opposite or same sex makes no difference) then the person will create constructs (or what they believe are the ideal traits for a person).

2) These constructs (for better or worse) are the basis of what we look for in a mate.

3) The person in question (the possible mate) must be examined in order to determine if they match up with the constructs that were created.

 

Conclusion:

Based on these principles there is no way to determine who is a “good” mate or a “bad” mate until they are in some way examined. If a person on the street passes another and neither interact, well they are still considered a “bad” mate because they did not fill one of the necessary premises to determine a “good” mate,

3) The person in question (the possible mate) must be examined in order to determine if they match up with the constructs that were created.

even after examination many people will not match our constructs either, just think of all the friends the average person has, class mates, fellow employees, none match the constructs and there for do not meet the criteria of a “good” mate and there for must make a “bad” mate.